Here’s How Therapy Can Help (From a Non-Therapist)
July 16, 2018
Ever wonder what the heck therapy should do for you? Here’s a summary of what it’s done for me. … More Here’s How Therapy Can Help (From a Non-Therapist)
Court Date July 12 | Another Hearing and Meeting New Survivors
July 14, 2018
Sometimes we get so good at our jobs we can do them almost on autopilot. We don’t realize everyone else has no idea what we are doing or why we are going so fast. This was how Thursday went down. Fast, sloppy and almost chaotic. The slap-dash of serial rapist-murder hearings. I’m pretty sure the … More Court Date July 12 | Another Hearing and Meeting New Survivors
I Was A Suspect In My Dad’s Murder | Part 2
July 8, 2018
I’m pretty sure I spent thousands of dollars in therapy to get over this. No, it wasn’t just this, but being a suspect – despite how ludicrous it seems now – was really awful. Therapy can be a real pain in the butt as you go through crap from the past that frankly, you want … More I Was A Suspect In My Dad’s Murder | Part 2
I Was a Suspect In My Dad’s Murder | Part 1
July 8, 2018
Probably the one thing about this whole case that caused me the most shame, was being a suspect. I can’t believe it happened and I can’t believe the police thought I could do something so awful. My mom was my alibi that night and she failed to remember I was home. She was in the … More I Was a Suspect In My Dad’s Murder | Part 1
Writing a Book About the Murders: I Can’t Do It and Here’s Why
July 7, 2018
I’m one of those people who doesn’t remember a lot of my childhood. There are good reasons why. While some memories are pure magic – picnics in my gramma front yard in Carmichael, friends who were always by my side, doing well in school and incredible teachers who saw me for who I was – … More Writing a Book About the Murders: I Can’t Do It and Here’s Why
When Someone Else’s Trauma Triggers Yours
June 23, 2018
It has been a really tough week. Not so much practically, but emotionally. I realized this morning, in a private moment, that I feel like a rock in a tumbler. My body hasn’t been working right (leg not working right for the third straight month so walking and standing has been challenging), I’m not in … More When Someone Else’s Trauma Triggers Yours
In Search of Lyman Smith’s Mystery Woman
June 16, 2018
My parents divorced in 1972. It was a bit of a long time coming. My mom was a stay at home mom at that point and my dad had been seeing Charlene for a while (mom discovered credit card receipts – honestly, practically a cliche – she paid the bills, of course he knew she’d … More In Search of Lyman Smith’s Mystery Woman
News of the Day: DNA, Evidence, and Victim’s Assistance
June 14, 2018
My new friends in the media warned me about this. They said to be ready for the ups and downs. There would be quiet periods and then the noise would start again as decisions are made and new evidence presented. I’m glad they prepared me. I woke up this morning pretty hot because I’m really … More News of the Day: DNA, Evidence, and Victim’s Assistance
I’ll Be Gone in the Dark – Telling Other People’s Stories – Barnes and Noble Part 2
June 9, 2018
I didn’t know who Michelle McNamara was until I heard Patton talking about her on Conan shortly after she died. I had never heard from her nor read any of her work. That was little more than a year ago. I Googled and discovered her LA Magazine article and then read more about her death … More I’ll Be Gone in the Dark – Telling Other People’s Stories – Barnes and Noble Part 2
Citrus Heights Barnes and Noble Was Packed with Stories, Interest and Support
June 5, 2018
“Look for Karen,” Ray texted, “She’s coming up for the book event tonight!” Holy cow, I thought, she’s coming all the way to Citrus Heights to see Patton and crew? I knew Ray (and Karen) from my gig at WebEx, part of Cisco. I know East Area Rapist sleuths are a committed group, but I … More Citrus Heights Barnes and Noble Was Packed with Stories, Interest and Support
Privacy at Issue in DeAngelo Pretrial Hearing: Discuss
June 1, 2018
I sat in court on Tuesday, listening to arguments for the first time, as they apply to privacy, the search warrant, the search “return” (what they found) and three points of view – that of “the people,” which is the prosecution that doesn’t technically represent the victims but instead represents the state, that of the … More Privacy at Issue in DeAngelo Pretrial Hearing: Discuss
Open Letter to the Male Survivors of the East Area Rapist
May 30, 2018
I’m not sure I want to know what happened inside my dad’s house. Larry Pool shared a lot with me and I know they both went through hell. But the way the story goes in my head, my dad was bound and as Charlene was being led away, I know his mind was reeling. After … More Open Letter to the Male Survivors of the East Area Rapist
May 29th In Court with East Area Rapist Victims
May 29, 2018
Yesterday, Memorial Day, it was quiet downtown near the jail. I was looking for a place for a “survivor coffee” after court. I passed a woman who looked homeless. She was bloody and I could see a lot of her battered body. Her clothes were tattered, maybe torn, her left shoe was missing and she … More May 29th In Court with East Area Rapist Victims
The Power of Women – East Area Rapist Survivors Are Fierce
May 29, 2018
Had anyone at a Buckhorn Grill looked our way, they would have seen a group of women, whooping it up, sharing laughter and a meal and singing happy birthday. What a wonderful group of women exhibiting a level of resilience that I believe, belongs to women. No matter what, most women know how to “soldier … More The Power of Women – East Area Rapist Survivors Are Fierce
For 30 Years He Lived Among Us
May 28, 2018
In Silicon Valley it’s not cool to be old. It should be, but it isn’t. What’s old? 40. 50. For sure 56 is and that’s how old I am. Who knew it would be the arrest of DeAngelo that would out me to my co-workers! I have an 18 year old still living at home … More For 30 Years He Lived Among Us