“Here’s what I want you to do.”
Ever need to talk to someone hoping they’ll say just the right thing to make you feel better or heard? This is an easy way to have that happen. Humans are pretty bad mind-readers. With this technique, you help them deliver what will help you most.
How it works
What: You specifically tell someone how you want them to respond.
When: Use it when you’re feeling vulnerable and how another person responds will make the difference between you feeling better or worse. Examples:
- When you have an idea and don’t want to have it shot down immediately.
- When you’re upset and don’t need a solution, just a friendly ear.
- When you have something hard to say and need to be heard.
Benefit: You should shift the experience. If you’re lucky, it will be a learning experience teaching the other person a new way to respond. At a minimum, you should feel much better about the interaction. This technique tends to slow down communication and make both participants more aware of how they manage their responses.
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