Video Tip: Stop Fighting! Ask One Simple Question

“What’s your idea?”

This is a great way to avoid fights while gaining insight into the motivation of the people you work with or live with. It’s easy and incredibly productive.

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How it works

What: This simple question, “What’s your idea?” can reveal motivation you didn’t anticipate.

When: Use it when you’d normally tell someone no, or not now, or to do something else. Examples: 

  • When a kid starts to get up from the table.
  • When an employee hesitates.
  • When a loved one resists your suggestion.

Benefit: What happens next might stop you in your tracks. Rather than default to controlling someone, ask them about their intent. You may discover they have a good idea that you can support. This has prevented a lot of squabbles in my life.

If you use this tip – let me know how it works! Hit me up on social media or leave a comment here. And if you like this content, subscribe on YouTube and share it with your friends. Thank you.

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